• Mark Hannafin

Choice and Inconvenience

Luckily most of us have an abundance of choice all around, from what chocolate to buy, which clothes to wear on a given day, what coffee to get, whether we want Starbucks or Costa, even if they’re exactly the same thing. The world is full of choice many we make consciously although most of us don’t even realize how many choices we make on a given day.

The kind of choice I’m talking about is subconscious. By that I mean we don’t even have to think about making them because it’s like second nature, some decisions just make themselves like how “on Wednesdays we wear pink”, right? Hopefully not. Nevertheless, many of us are dominated by the world around us, culture or society telling us how to live our lives, our friends and family influencing us to be a certain way, dress, talk and act similarly.

The best example of this is teenagers. Next time you encounter a group of these wild beings, notice how the blend in amongst one another, possibly the only difference is the colour of their clothes or shoes. They probably have the similar slang and if you crazy enough to listen for a long period of time to hear them discuss all their problems feel free. I live with one so I’m well versed in how these entities function.

Now it’s not totally fair to blast teens for not being individuals they are trying to find there place in this world so in order not to stand out it’s better to blend in. I get it I was a teenager once. Once! It’s harder for them to realize that you can choose to be different. I’m not just talking about choosing a different coffee than you normally drink. I mean consciously choosing to think differently, about things that happen true-out life.

Ever have something inconvenient happen to you? Silly question, of course, you have. The real question is, how did you feel after? Did it get you down, ruin the whole day, maybe it made you look foolish, maybe you said something that ruins a date or makes a conversation uncomfortable.

Whatever it was and however you felt after was actually a choice. You chose, how to feel after. You probably didn’t even know you were making the choice, but subconsciously you did. Let’s say your car broke down or wouldn’t start, so you got angry at the car, kicked it a bit then angrily rang the repair man or someone to pick you up and fix the car. Now for the rest of the day, you’re in a bad mood. This is because it’s the natural reaction. Or is it? Perhaps it’s the same reaction you saw someone else have a relatable incident in the past. Somewhere we learned that the thing to do when your car breaks down is to go into a rage.

Everyone gets angry or upset if things don’t work the way they should, which is fine we all react badly at times. Despite that, it shouldn’t control our mood and actions to others for the day. We can choose to give power to how the disruption affects our mood. Now it’s not probable that you will have a big smile on when the tow truck man arrives, he would think you insane. Who could be so lively and content to be broken down on the side of the road?

Rather make a conscious decision not to get so down, after you’ve given the car a few kicks and cursed at the inanimate object. Still, it’s possible to adapt our mood when something inconvenient happens. Of course, each experience is different and sometimes we can’t help be angry at someone or something, to feel the need to grieve. Throughout all we can still make a choice to be strong, or be happy because however dismal we feel at the time, that feeling won’t last forever and choosing to change your mode for the better is a power we all possess.